10 with a 10 is a weekly interview series featuring strong women who run their gigs like a boss.
I've posed 10 questions, stopped laughing and crying long enough to snap a Polaroid and put their interviews up every Monday to promote their hustle with a wide community that should know about them.
This week, Nashville tumbleweed, Jenna Lane, rolls in to dust off some significantly-earned wisdom and gracious insight before catching the wind into the wilderness.
1. What do you do and what does it give to people?
Bah. Well, what day is it? Event planner, Wannabe Producer, Scarf Maker and In and Out of retirement Motivational Speaker.
I currently work as a Event and Culture Programmer, on the best of days, I feel like it's my job to make friends on behalf of the business.
I get a chance to meet with others working in the area and tell them all the ways I admire who they are and what they do. Other days what I give to people is just an event. Haha.
I love producing because I have an unnatural love for logistics. I have always been great at problem solving and pulling things together.
I think it started when I was younger, watching creatives be so good at what they do, but then not being able to move it forward. So much talent would burn out from trying to push out a skill that wasn't natural to them. I get shit done, so why not just make it happen for these people so the world has great things to hear,watch and experience. Nothing is better than playing a part in someone else's dream coming true.
Scarf maker, I legit make scarves. I am not a passionate scarf maker, rather an accidental scarf maker. I would like to think what my scarf business gives people, other than scarves (duh), is the understanding that you don't need to go hungry. At least not in North America. When push comes to shove, you have a random skill that can make you money.
People struggle to think outside the box. The idea of making and selling knitted goods to live sounds ridiculous, but so does making greeting cards or giving tours on mountain tops, but people are doing it and killing it!
Motivational Speaker, what a crazy title. Somedays I swear it's far from motivational and more like begging people to keep pushing through in this life so I don't feel alone fighting this hard for it.
My story is so small, yet the Lord has used it in the most insane ways to, in some cases, literally save lives. The first time I ever told my story was at a high school, afterwards a girl came up to me and said she'd struggled for so long with thoughts of suicide. It was as if there was no fight to get to the other side of this because no one had even told her there was another side to fight for. She cried and told me I was her proof pushing through was not only possible, but worth it. When I was done talking to her I went into the gym storage room, got on my knees and cried, telling God that if that was it, if she was the one and only reason I went through every single hurt, it was all worth it.
It's easily the most significant thing I have ever done, helping others understand the power of their life.
I could go on about this forever. I'll just stop here, go watch my video if you want. I ride my moped in it, so that's hella cool.
2. What's a piece of advice you consistently find yourself giving out but find hard to take yourself?
Don't fear being known.
Shit just got deep.
Maybe I should just say "Get enough sleep!"
To be known is to be vulnerable. And that's just terrifying. All of me knows it's absolutely worth it, that I can't have deep relationships without letting people know me, but I am so scared of rejection. These days I'm mostly at the point where I'm still so scared of rejection, but I just walk straight through it. I fully embrace every bit of that fear as I let someone see me cry, or heck, just tell them how I feel. The hardest part still is letting it be known I need help. I am always worried it might be easy enough to be my friend until I actually need something, then it's not worth it. I would be so absolutely heartbroken if one of my friends felt they couldn't come to me when they needed something. I would feel like they didn't trust me to be a truly loving friend, yet I constantly rob people of a chance to be a loving friend to me.
Now, I will just go ahead and leave a link to Brene Brown quotes I read that sum it up like a BOSS: http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/162578.Bren_Brown
3. How do you rely on others to make you better?
They say you become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. I'm always looking for the 5 people I respect the most and rub all up in their space. People call me out on my crap, put me in my place, make me laugh and force me out of comfort zones. The best people I watch live life and I am transformed. The biggest thing for me is watching people be great leaders. I just love working under or alongside an amazing leader and discovering how I can use grace, encouragement, and communication skills like theirs in my everyday life.
4. Someone gives you 50 mill. What's the FIRST way your life changes?
The first way my life changes is I'm a millionaire. Then I would probably buy a full body mosquito next because I'm about to enter the wilderness.
5. What has compelled you forward more than anything else?
I have no idea. Curiosity? I like finding out what I'm good at and just how far I can take it.
6. Do you like when people ask you, "Where do you want to be in 5 years?"
I dont like it because I don't like questions about things that don't matter. I could tell you all day long where I want to be, but I've figured out that every year I am somewhere I never thought I would be the year before.
7. If someone was handed a script of your inner dialogue this week, what would it say?
"I'm over thinking this, how big picture do I really need to see this? I really don't need to think so hard about all of this, I bet it would only take me a second to forget all these things I just thought of, so why even think about it? I can make a decision in one second, so why am I thinking so hard? I bet if I was eating tacos right now nothing else would matter. I seriously need to just pray about this. I should probably pray next to a lake though, on a rock, out of the city. I don't have a car..."
8. Are you spontaneous?
I do think I'm spontaneous, but I think even my spontaneity is calculated. I can fully think about a decision, its consequences, and if those consequences would be worth it pretty quickly.
9. Are you failing differently each time?
Some areas, yes. In other areas, ones where I really, really, really shouldn't be failing at this anymore, I do. Maybe it's a safety mechanism.
10. Paul Newman or Robert Redford?
Dark hair and light eyes get me every time. Just look at every dude I've ever dated.