10 with a 10: lanie chalmers

10 with a 10 is a weekly interview series featuring strong women who run their gigs like a boss.

I've posed 10 questions, stopped laughing and crying long enough to snap a Polaroid and will be putting their interviews up every Monday to promote their hustle with a wide community that should know about them.

This week, one of the most tender-hearted, warm, giving people to have two feet on this planet, Lanie Chalmers.

1. What do you do and what does it give to people?

I am an Energy Healer! I am a guide and facilitator to help people go into “blocks” as they feel them (emotional, mental, physical) and with that, bring awareness to the root issue under the symptom and release it. I hold space, guide, and listen with complete love and attention, while running energy through their bodies. It gives people a sacred and personal space to really open up and BE with their tough stuff in a safe and healing space. This work has helped people get relief from physical and emotional issues and has healed illnesses! It’s incredible.

I totally believe in this process of healing connection. That being vulnerable, and experiencing our subconscious, deeply held beliefs (the fear-based ‘unhealthy’ ones, AND the most loving, self nurturing ones) within a trusting and allowing space, opens up room within ourselves to be more authentic and wholly present people on our paths.

And I also make organic herbal healing salves!

2. What's a piece of advice you consistently find yourself giving out but find hard to take yourself?

Oh that’s easy: STOP being hard on yourself. Growing and healing old wounds isn’t achieved by being our worst critic; to make sure we’re ‘doing our life right’ or constantly achieving, but it happens naturally by being loving and accepting of ourselves and everything we feel.

I fall into this again and again! I think self-love is a spiral. When we notice we’ve fallen back into old, dark feelings, we may think we’ve come back to square one but rather it’s really back to the similar issues of how we cut off from giving ourselves love, but now we’re going deeper into it because we’ve done the work.   

2. How do you rely on others to make you better?

Oh my God, so important. Just like in my practice, the importance of connection brings us back to ourselves- to the parts that were split off because we were afraid they weren’t as good as they should be, or just not good at all. So the sharing of my thoughts, feelings - great stuff, impossibly difficult stuff, stuff I’m ashamed of - the sharing of all this to people who love me for all of it helps me feel perfect as I am, truly loved, and more loving.

I believe we can only continue to grow from being in relationship to others. Being fiercely independent and doing life on our own makes us strong, no-doubt, but if we really look at it, it can actually be cutting us off from others. But being open and vulnerable is so hard! It has taken a lot of work for me to be able to be vulnerable. 

3. Someone gives you 50 mill. What's the FIRST way your life changes?

I would buy a small truck, and a canoe, and go get more intimate with the lay of North American and be in nature any freaking time I want! I would quit my part-time day job that doesn’t nourish me the way I’d like my sources of income to do. There’s also some people in my life that could really use a portion of that who’d be getting some. Then student loan debt… wah wah - classic.

5. What has compelled you forward more than anything else (ambition, success, discipline, pressure, money, reputation, attention, risk...)

Knowing and loving myself more. I’ve been really depressed at times in my life, and from it came the drive toward personal understanding and healing so I could actually enjoy life and not feel stuck in some bubble of limited possibilities.

6. Do you like when people ask you, "Where do you want to be in 5 years?"

Yes! I have a long list of desires that I know I will either have, or be on my way to having! Ask me that a couple years ago and I would have wanted to punch that person, and myself.

7. If someone was handed a script of your inner dialogue this week, what would it say?

“Is this thought/feeling coming from fear or love?”

This is my inner task this week, and has been many times in the past too. It comes out of becoming aware that the last couple weeks I was actually getting pretty far down into dark inner dialogue, like: “Am I doing life right”; “What if I’m not good enough?”; “Can I really afford to pursue my next big step?”; “I hate my day job”; Things like that, that come from being afraid that I have no power or ability to be fulfilled right now.

8. Are you spontaneous?

Yes. But I’m also an introvert. So, for social things, not really.

9. Are you failing differently each time?

I feel that failing isn’t actually a thing; it’s just more knowing. Every ‘fail’ helps me become more understanding of myself and to recognize that I have certain expectations that if met will prove me to be “valuable” to myself. That’s a trap!  

10. Paul Newman or Robert Redford?

I don’t know either either of these guys. Haha. I missed a lot of culturally relevant things when I was a kid, and I’ve kept it up.